Are You Frustrated with Your Life?

July 26, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

Do you feel unchallenged or uninspired at work?

Do your relationships lack meaningful connection and depth?

What is the cost to you of success?

If our average life expectancy were a few hundred years, we’d have plenty of time to experiment in our pursuit of happiness. We could try all sorts of jobs and relationships to see which ones worked well and which were just a lot of work. We could go down each path with little concern about the consequences because we’d trust we have enough time to redirect our course if necessary. (Taken from Chapter 5 of my book, The Business of Wanting More: Why some Executives Move from Success to Fulfillment and Others Don’t)

Of course, we do NOT live that long, which means we have a limited number of chances to “Get it right,” right now!

“It is often tragic to see how blatantly a man bungles his own life and the lives of others yet remains totally incapable of seeing how much the whole tragedy originates in himself, and how he continually feeds it and keeps it going.” – Carl Jung

Q7 Process, Step 1: Take a fearless inventory of where you are, this moment

Successful change always begins with awareness. For example, you go to your doctor feeling ill and the tests are not good; you are immediately AWARE that things need to change if you hope to overcome your illness. The same is true in life and in business – you must become aware of the cause of your problem before you can begin the change process.

In the Q7 process, awareness begins with a ruthlessly honest inventory of your life: you are working, eating, talking, spending too much. How is this working for you? What price are you paying? Do these things, in the larger picture of your life, really matter to you, or are they merely habits that can, and must, change?

How do you evaluate your relationships – with money, work, others, your body, and your Self? How do you rate yourself in terms of your ability to be spiritual, empathetic, in service to others, and to have non-financial goals? Having a larger plan for your life not only is the first step to playing a bigger game, it’s what it means to live consciously, rather than by mere habit or accident, or living your life according to what others value.

Once you’ve taken an honest and fearless inventory of your life, you can choose to live a life of fulfillment. And yes, it is a choice to stop living as a victim or to rationalize your inability to change. Inherent in this choice is taking responsibility for your choices in the past and present. Then you can start making new choices that hopefully yield new, positive outcomes. Shifting your focus from victim to responsible agent opens your life to greater possibilities – you become the agent of change and can stop waiting for, or fearing to, change. Every incremental change contributes toward a vision for your life – what you’ll create in the next step of the Q7 Process.

If you’re interested in learning more about the Q7 Process, my book is available here.

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Executive coach, top team facilitator, author and speaker. I work with individual leaders and their teams to help navigate personal and professional transitions and to increase leadership capacity and improve communication and relationship skills. I founded my coaching firm in 2001 following 12 years asa CEO. Check out more on me and my coaching process in my book “The Business of Wanting More: Why Some Executives Move from Success to Fulfillment and Others Don’t”

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