Five Timely Questions to Ask When Business is Not as Usual

March 23, 2020 | By | Add a Comment

It’s definitely not “business as usual” these days. Under the circumstances, you may feel disoriented, foggy, overwhelmed, numb, stuck, or just not knowing what to say to someone. And yet your business life continues, you want to connect, you need to do your job, and you care about the people you work with. Before discussing vulnerable or potentially stressful or contentious business topics, strive to make an authentic connection. Ask one or more meaningful questions. These suggested questions are most effective when accompanied by an open, grounded, positive and abundant attitude. Each question is followed by an intent that you can be mindful of without explicitly sharing. How are you feeling? Intent: I want to hear what emotion you are […]

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Now Is An Excellent Time: The One Tool You Need During Turbulent Times

March 11, 2020 | By | Add a Comment

One is never afraid of the unknown; one is afraid of the known coming to an end. -Jiddu Krishnamurti What’s your deepest fear? Losing all your money, the loss of a family member, disability, death? Everyone is one phone call or breaking news message away from dropping into fight, flight or freeze mode. Yes, fear is a motivator and it’s vital to keeping us safe. Yet chronic fear or anxiety results in energy being trapped in our first couple of chakras (energy centers of our body), causing us to cease being fully resourceful, creative and able to see the big picture. Fear is Calling, Answer the Phone The early stage of a potential pandemic is an excellent time to test […]

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How To Increase Your Spiritual Intelligence

December 16, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

How exactly does one develop their spiritual life? It doesn’t matter if you’re evangelical, liberal or atheist we all have an aspect of ourselves that transcends our thoughts, feelings and actions. Our spirit connects us to something bigger than ourselves and at the same time is our unchanging, essential nature. It’s through our spirit that we connects nature, Spirit, God, Higher Power, or the universe or cosmos. Religious community, practice and beliefs can be ways some to move down their spiritual path and it’s certainly not the only way. My focus in more spiritual than religious. Spirituality is not just a cosmic concept, it spirituality plays a major role in our leadership. Our spiritual maturity influences our leadership style and […]

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How to do a “Check-In”: The One Skill You Need to Have a Real Conversation

October 7, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

Here is a 7-minute video on how to do a “Check-In.” YPOer’s know about this process from forum, and I start all my coaching sessions with it. It is a sure-fire way to drop into a deeper connection with yourself, your colleague, team, friend, or spouse. This quick, simple process increases your EQ and taps into the vulnerability that leaders need if you want to be authentic and powerful. As I put this together, I realized this exercise is actually a skill and one that you will need if you want to have a real conversation and everyone ought to know how to do that. What did you think of this video? Leave a comment below and let me know […]

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Three Reasons You Can’t Slow Down

August 8, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

Don’t move faster than you can feel. – Teja Bell, Qigong and Zen Master I’m busier than I want to be. It’s confusing because most everything I‘m doing I’ve chosen to do. My business is booming, and I love my work. I want to serve more, so I’m increasingly active in two service organizations, and empty-nesting has made it easier to travel, and then there’s golf. While I preach the importance of being versus doing, I struggle balancing the two. Are you as busy as you want to be? Are you spending time on what matters? Slowing down is challenging in our culture of more—where people over-work, -plan, -eat, -drink, and -consume. If you are serious about changing and really […]

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One Thing to Focus on for Your Psychological Growth

May 7, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

Here is another video blog that picks up where my previous video, Are You Enlightened, left off. In 11 minutes, I dive a bit deeper into personal growth, self-mastery and the important role your personal shadow plays in this. I’m also sharing two sure-fire ways to help you “grow up.” What did you think of this video? Leave a comment below and let me know your key takeaways about personal growth and self-mastery. Share this post with others so they can gain new perspective about psychological growth and self-mastery.

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Are You Enlightened?

March 25, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

I’m excited to share with you my first video blog. I invite you to spend about 8 minutes watching this video, which speaks to the question, “Just how enlightened am I?” Personal growth has to happen in two areas in order for us to both Grow Up (gain psychological maturity) and Wake Up (have spiritual intelligence). The horizontal and vertical graph I use in this video will help you honestly and accurately assess your self-mastery and depth of insight. Keep growing – our family, friends and employees need us to grow up, the world needs us to wake up! What did you think of this video? Leave a comment below and let me know your key takeaways about personal growth […]

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Act III: How to Make the Last Third of Your Life the Best

February 19, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

What man needs is not some tension-less state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. – Victor Frankl Are you ready for Act III of your life? As you may recall, in Act I you built your tower as you discovered who you are and what you can do. You felt invincible, or at least pretended to be. Sure, your ego was a bit inflated, but that allowed you to dream big, set ambitious goals, and persevere in the world. Facing Your Limitations Then there was Act II. At this point you are out of survival mode and, humbled by your life’s inevitable setbacks, just a little less full of yourself. You are winning. You […]

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Do You Have a Magnetic Personality?

January 7, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

…love thy neighbor as thyself. – Matthew 22, verse 39 Imagine you’re making a routine visit to your doctor. She tells you that she’s discovered a mass lodged near your heart. A biopsy determines that the mass is totally benign yet strangely magnetic. Further research determines this is no ordinary magnet: this magnet attracts people. And not just any type of person. In its default mode, it attracts people who are very different from you. People who know how to push your buttons and get you to react. You don’t have to believe this story—instead validate it with your own experience. Whether it’s family members, your spouse, or your business partners, you may notice that you’re often surrounded by a […]

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What Smart Leaders Do When They are the Problem

October 8, 2018 | By | Add a Comment

Sometimes I want to give the CEOs I know a T-shirt that says, “I’m right!” This is the message they convey when they say, “These guys just don’t get it.” “I’ve told them a hundred times to stop doing… and yet they still do it.” Smart executives are often right, but I’m not sure being right is what matters. When a leader’s tone is defensive, zealous, and self-righteous, she or he is ineffective at influencing others. This is what happens when we are convinced everyone else is the problem. Tennis Lessons Consider Serena Williams’s recent tirade in the championship match at this year’s U.S. Open. This video clip is worth a watch if you haven’t seen it. Serena was given […]

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