Category: Musings
Never Let a Good Crisis go to Waste
In this 10 min video, I talk about the patterns of initiations as we navigate a planetary initiation. Specifically, in this video, I focus on the “descent” stage of initiation. Seeing this as a rite of passage provides perspective as you ride the mental and emotional waves. Having a map allows you to know where you are in the process of transformation and to consider what is trying to emerge for us individually and collectively. How will you use this time to create a better version of you, and of us? Note: I’ll cover the other two stages of the initiation (ordeal and integration) in subsequent videos Brian
How to do a “Check-In”: The One Skill You Need to Have a Real Conversation
Here is a 7-minute video on how to do a “Check-In.” YPOer’s know about this process from forum, and I start all my coaching sessions with it. It is a sure-fire way to drop into a deeper connection with yourself, your colleague, team, friend, or spouse. This quick, simple process increases your EQ and taps into the vulnerability that leaders need if you want to be authentic and powerful. As I put this together, I realized this exercise is actually a skill and one that you will need if you want to have a real conversation and everyone ought to know how to do that. What did you think of this video? Leave a comment below and let me know […]
Three Reasons You Can’t Slow Down
Don’t move faster than you can feel. – Teja Bell, Qigong and Zen Master I’m busier than I want to be. It’s confusing because most everything I‘m doing I’ve chosen to do. My business is booming, and I love my work. I want to serve more, so I’m increasingly active in two service organizations, and empty-nesting has made it easier to travel, and then there’s golf. While I preach the importance of being versus doing, I struggle balancing the two. Are you as busy as you want to be? Are you spending time on what matters? Slowing down is challenging in our culture of more—where people over-work, -plan, -eat, -drink, and -consume. If you are serious about changing and really […]
One Thing to Focus on for Your Psychological Growth
Here is another video blog that picks up where my previous video, Are You Enlightened, left off. In 11 minutes, I dive a bit deeper into personal growth, self-mastery and the important role your personal shadow plays in this. I’m also sharing two sure-fire ways to help you “grow up.” What did you think of this video? Leave a comment below and let me know your key takeaways about personal growth and self-mastery. Share this post with others so they can gain new perspective about psychological growth and self-mastery.
Are You Enlightened?
I’m excited to share with you my first video blog. I invite you to spend about 8 minutes watching this video, which speaks to the question, “Just how enlightened am I?” Personal growth has to happen in two areas in order for us to both Grow Up (gain psychological maturity) and Wake Up (have spiritual intelligence). The horizontal and vertical graph I use in this video will help you honestly and accurately assess your self-mastery and depth of insight. Keep growing – our family, friends and employees need us to grow up, the world needs us to wake up! What did you think of this video? Leave a comment below and let me know your key takeaways about personal growth […]
Act III: How to Make the Last Third of Your Life the Best
What man needs is not some tension-less state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. – Victor Frankl Are you ready for Act III of your life? As you may recall, in Act I you built your tower as you discovered who you are and what you can do. You felt invincible, or at least pretended to be. Sure, your ego was a bit inflated, but that allowed you to dream big, set ambitious goals, and persevere in the world. Facing Your Limitations Then there was Act II. At this point you are out of survival mode and, humbled by your life’s inevitable setbacks, just a little less full of yourself. You are winning. You […]
Do You Have a Magnetic Personality?
…love thy neighbor as thyself. – Matthew 22, verse 39 Imagine you’re making a routine visit to your doctor. She tells you that she’s discovered a mass lodged near your heart. A biopsy determines that the mass is totally benign yet strangely magnetic. Further research determines this is no ordinary magnet: this magnet attracts people. And not just any type of person. In its default mode, it attracts people who are very different from you. People who know how to push your buttons and get you to react. You don’t have to believe this story—instead validate it with your own experience. Whether it’s family members, your spouse, or your business partners, you may notice that you’re often surrounded by a […]
What Smart Leaders Do When They are the Problem
Sometimes I want to give the CEOs I know a T-shirt that says, “I’m right!” This is the message they convey when they say, “These guys just don’t get it.” “I’ve told them a hundred times to stop doing… and yet they still do it.” Smart executives are often right, but I’m not sure being right is what matters. When a leader’s tone is defensive, zealous, and self-righteous, she or he is ineffective at influencing others. This is what happens when we are convinced everyone else is the problem. Tennis Lessons Consider Serena Williams’s recent tirade in the championship match at this year’s U.S. Open. This video clip is worth a watch if you haven’t seen it. Serena was given […]
Living in Flow: How to Live and Lead with Less Effort and More Joy
The burden is never life. It’s what you’re thinking and believing about life. – Byron Katie You know the feeling of flow. Researchers describe flow as a temporary state during which you are fully present and immersed in what you’re doing. You have an energized focus and results seem to come almost effortlessly. I want flow in my life because I want to feel connected to and supported by something bigger than my own will. I want less friction and resistance and I want to be aligned with the flow of energy around me—and in so doing, to live with more ease and amusement. I want to do work that taps my genius. I want to feel a sense of […]