Category: Musings

Three Reasons You Can’t Slow Down

August 8, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

Don’t move faster than you can feel. – Teja Bell, Qigong and Zen Master I’m busier than I want to be. It’s confusing because most everything I‘m doing I’ve chosen to do. My business is booming, and I love my work. I want to serve more, so I’m increasingly active in two service organizations, and empty-nesting has made it easier to travel, and then there’s golf. While I preach the importance of being versus doing, I struggle balancing the two. Are you as busy as you want to be? Are you spending time on what matters? Slowing down is challenging in our culture of more—where people over-work, -plan, -eat, -drink, and -consume. If you are serious about changing and really […]

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One Thing to Focus on for Your Psychological Growth

May 7, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

Here is another video blog that picks up where my previous video, Are You Enlightened, left off. In 11 minutes, I dive a bit deeper into personal growth, self-mastery and the important role your personal shadow plays in this. I’m also sharing two sure-fire ways to help you “grow up.” What did you think of this video? Leave a comment below and let me know your key takeaways about personal growth and self-mastery. Share this post with others so they can gain new perspective about psychological growth and self-mastery.

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Are You Enlightened?

March 25, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

I’m excited to share with you my first video blog. I invite you to spend about 8 minutes watching this video, which speaks to the question, “Just how enlightened am I?” Personal growth has to happen in two areas in order for us to both Grow Up (gain psychological maturity) and Wake Up (have spiritual intelligence). The horizontal and vertical graph I use in this video will help you honestly and accurately assess your self-mastery and depth of insight. Keep growing – our family, friends and employees need us to grow up, the world needs us to wake up! What did you think of this video? Leave a comment below and let me know your key takeaways about personal growth […]

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Act III: How to Make the Last Third of Your Life the Best

February 19, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

What man needs is not some tension-less state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. – Victor Frankl Are you ready for Act III of your life? As you may recall, in Act I you built your tower as you discovered who you are and what you can do. You felt invincible, or at least pretended to be. Sure, your ego was a bit inflated, but that allowed you to dream big, set ambitious goals, and persevere in the world. Facing Your Limitations Then there was Act II. At this point you are out of survival mode and, humbled by your life’s inevitable setbacks, just a little less full of yourself. You are winning. You […]

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Do You Have a Magnetic Personality?

January 7, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

…love thy neighbor as thyself. – Matthew 22, verse 39 Imagine you’re making a routine visit to your doctor. She tells you that she’s discovered a mass lodged near your heart. A biopsy determines that the mass is totally benign yet strangely magnetic. Further research determines this is no ordinary magnet: this magnet attracts people. And not just any type of person. In its default mode, it attracts people who are very different from you. People who know how to push your buttons and get you to react. You don’t have to believe this story—instead validate it with your own experience. Whether it’s family members, your spouse, or your business partners, you may notice that you’re often surrounded by a […]

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What Smart Leaders Do When They are the Problem

October 8, 2018 | By | Add a Comment

Sometimes I want to give the CEOs I know a T-shirt that says, “I’m right!” This is the message they convey when they say, “These guys just don’t get it.” “I’ve told them a hundred times to stop doing… and yet they still do it.” Smart executives are often right, but I’m not sure being right is what matters. When a leader’s tone is defensive, zealous, and self-righteous, she or he is ineffective at influencing others. This is what happens when we are convinced everyone else is the problem. Tennis Lessons Consider Serena Williams’s recent tirade in the championship match at this year’s U.S. Open. This video clip is worth a watch if you haven’t seen it. Serena was given […]

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How to Expand Your Consciousness

September 3, 2018 | By | Add a Comment

No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. -Albert Einstein Sometimes it’s hard to find your golf ball. You scan every square inch of the section of grass into which you thought you’d hit it. Then your partner yells, “I found it!” He’s 15 yards away on the other side of a tree, standing in a place you would have never thought to look. It’s a reminder that we will never find what we’re looking for when we’re looking in the wrong place. The Limitations of Our Thinking Our mind looks for ideas and information the way it looks for lost golf balls. Neuroscientists report that there are 11 million bits of information floating […]

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Living in Flow: How to Live and Lead with Less Effort and More Joy

December 18, 2017 | By | Add a Comment

The burden is never life. It’s what you’re thinking and believing about life. – Byron Katie You know the feeling of flow. Researchers describe flow as a temporary state during which you are fully present and immersed in what you’re doing. You have an energized focus and results seem to come almost effortlessly. I want flow in my life because I want to feel connected to and supported by something bigger than my own will. I want less friction and resistance and I want to be aligned with the flow of energy around me—and in so doing, to live with more ease and amusement. I want to do work that taps my genius. I want to feel a sense of […]

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Parenting, the Biggest Job You’ll Ever Have: Three Ways to Set Your Children Up for Well-Being

July 24, 2017 | By | Add a Comment

I wish you bad luck… from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved… -Chief Justice Roberts in his June 3, 2017 commencement address to his son’s middle school graduation Parenting has been our biggest job and the one for which we were least prepared. As relatively new empty-nesters, now we are enjoying watching our daughter, age 22, and our son, age 20, compose their lives. Here are three principles that have informed our parenting and helped our children tap their potential. Acceptance Acceptance, aka unconditional love, takes work. We assume everyone is on a unique trajectory through life. This idea keeps us […]

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Freedom from Worry: How to Move from Control to Faith

June 20, 2017 | By | Add a Comment

I’m a lover of reality. When I argue with What Is, I lose, but only 100% of the time. –Byron Katie My daughter graduated college this May. She’s busy having fun travelling and submitting job applications. She says I ask her too often about her plans. What I consider to be helpful, she considers to be hovering. She’s right, I do worry too much about my kids. My daughter’s career, like her entire life, is “her business.” My angst about being the perfect parent and making sure my kids are set for life is “my business.” Maybe I should be worrying about my plans, not hers. The Cost of Comfort On a recent walk with my friend Tom, I realized […]

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