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The Most Important Thing to Know about Yourself

February 18, 2023 | By | Add a Comment

There is the mud, and there is the lotus that grows out of the mud. We need the mud in order to make the lotus. —Thich Nhat Hanh One of my favorite communication starters I use on YPO and corporate team retreats takes the form of a fill-in-the-blank statement: Sometimes I pretend _____ when the truth about me is ______. It is an invitation to get real and to out yourself and the way you jockey for acceptance and approval when the truth about you is you are feeling insecure and unworthy. The best part of the exercise is when everyone realizes that we are all playing this game. When the person you thought had it all together reveals that […]

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The Problem is You: How to Track the Impact You’re Having on Others

October 21, 2022 | By | Add a Comment

Leaders are often the last to appreciate the impact they are having on their team and organization. In this 6 minute video I talk about the two big factors that create this common blind spot and describe a two-step process that will reduce it and facilitate systemic change.

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The Truth Will Set You Free: Understanding the Relationship Between History and Well-Being

February 23, 2022 | By | Add a Comment

If you know your history Then you would know where you coming from Then you wouldn’t have to ask me Who the heck do I think I am. –  From Buffalo Soldier by Bob Marley   Your Family Story Ripples Through Time Knowing the dynamics of your unique family history can explain patterns of behaviors, relationships within the family and ways members compensate for their pain. Our families are as dysfunctional as their secrets. Surfacing the shadowy behavior and history we’d rather avoid or deny reduces the risk that these old patterns will be repeated. Therefore, it’s important to understand your complete family history as objectively as you can and as far back as you can. You want to know […]

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The Problem with Success

February 4, 2022 | By | Add a Comment

I was recently a guest on a podcast called A Day in a Canoe.   This show was created by Nathan Mersereau, a YPO member and owner of Planning Alternatives https://www.planningalt.com/, a Midwest wealth management firm. Nathan interviews people with whom he would look forward to spending a day in a canoe.  Like me, Nathan is committed to helping his clients make more than just money. We want to others build multiple forms of wealth, especially the forms that lead to greater fulfillment. Check out our 16-minute conversation and learn why many high achievers miss the mark and focus on things that lead them away from what they want the most.

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From Weary to Wonder: How to Reduce Stress and Increase Resiliency in Times of Change

January 10, 2022 | By | Add a Comment

Yes, in some ways it’s been a rocky last couple of years and we might want to prepare for more change in the years ahead. In this 7 minute video I look at why the pandemic-related, social and climate changes have been so hard on us and how we can become more resourced to navigate what’s ahead (hint: it’s not retiring or moving to Montana).

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Say Yes to Less: 3 Ways to Respond to Labor and Supply Shortages

November 24, 2021 | By | Add a Comment

It seems like COVID is not finished giving us invitations to change the way we live and work. Instead of getting frustrated and stressed dealing with delays and shortages, try something new and radical like buying, doing and consuming less. In this 7 minute video I talk about how to break free of over-consumption mind hacks and find more of what we really need by saying yes to less.    

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Stop Projecting And Start Connecting

September 21, 2021 | By | Add a Comment

Looks like an earlier video did not contain audio – please try this one. Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In the space is the power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. –Victor Frankl, Neurologist, psychologist, and Holocaust survivor When we project onto others we make up stories about them. As a result, we miss seeing the whole person. Projecting creates disappointment, resentment, and disconnection. In this 6 minute video, I describe a 3 step process I call “The Flip” that you can use to interrupt your patterns of projecting and experience greater equanimity and peace. Don’t miss my inside look at a new technology I am calling the “Equanimity Generator” […]

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Choosing Positivity

August 17, 2021 | By | Add a Comment

In this 5 minute video, I talk about the power of choice on multiple levels so that life isn’t something that happens to you but rather by you. The next time you find your mind and emotions getting hijacked by your negative thinking or controlled by alarmist, negative “news”, take a microsecond and choose to think positively. In the video, I demonstrate a quick mindfulness practice you can do morning and/or evening that will help you make more conscious choices.

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Managing In Times Of Abundance

July 20, 2021 | By | Add a Comment

What could go wrong amid a growing economy, rising asset prices, and increasing incomes and net worths? I’m not sure humans know how to say “enough”. We are prone to excess, we get addicted, we overextend, use too much of our natural resources, and forget about the needs of people who are not benefiting from the abundance. In this 8 minute video, I identify two reasons we struggle with abundance and two strategies that we can use to feel more fulfilled.

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Who Will You Be When The Mask Comes Off?

May 11, 2021 | By | Add a Comment

With a little luck and more vaccinations, we could be starting the climb out of the hole left by COVID-19. I realize this last year has changed me. I want to sustain some of the deep change this time has brought me. In this 8 min video, I talk about three changes I am committing to making. How about you? What has shifted that you want to sustain? Thank you Cecilia Broder for the inspiration for the title more on Cecilia’s photography at https://cbimages-co.photoshelter.com/index

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