Category: Personal Growth

How to Lead from Your Heart

August 7, 2018 | By | Add a Comment

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens. — Carl Jung I want to be a heart-centered leader. I want to be authentic so the people I lead can connect to my authenticity, not just my words, title, or position. I want people to feel me, not just understand me, so they will be inspired to step into their own authenticity and genius. I want others to live and lead from their heart because I know what’s possible when people experience connection. The Most Important Leadership Skill of All Leadership requires effective communication, relationship-building, and presence. Competency in these areas demands high emotional intelligence (EQ). You have a […]

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How do you Sabotage Your Attempt to Change?

August 2, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

Do others in your organization resist your vision for the future? Are family and friends unsupportive of your attempt to change? Have you found yourself resisting your commitment to change? When you set yourself up for change, you can also set yourself up for failure if you don’t recognize the not-so-obvious internal and external impediments to change. A powerful vision is always met with resistance. Wanting to reduce the risk that comes with change, your family, friends, and co-workers may resist your new ideas. But the strongest resistance will likely come from you – from the parts of your personality, largely subconscious, that are committed not to human potential and fulfillment, but to self-preservation and risk reduction: The Protector and […]

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Are You Frustrated with Your Life?

July 26, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

Do you feel unchallenged or uninspired at work? Do your relationships lack meaningful connection and depth? What is the cost to you of success? If our average life expectancy were a few hundred years, we’d have plenty of time to experiment in our pursuit of happiness. We could try all sorts of jobs and relationships to see which ones worked well and which were just a lot of work. We could go down each path with little concern about the consequences because we’d trust we have enough time to redirect our course if necessary. (Taken from Chapter 5 of my book, The Business of Wanting More: Why some Executives Move from Success to Fulfillment and Others Don’t) Of course, we […]

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“Change Management” is Not Just a Buzzword

July 12, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

How do people and organizations effect change? Sparked by a crisis in my own life – I was highly successful and deeply unhappy, I made a transformational change and make personal fulfillment a key priority in my life. Then, taking what I’d learned about transforming human behavior (my own and others), I created the Q7 Process; a program designed to help executives move from success to fulfillment. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was creating a change management process not too dissimilar to ADKAR and other models. The “Q” refers to “quadrant,” one quarter of a four-dimensional grid that represents the four dimensions of a person (and can be applied to a group of people), while the […]

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How to Communicate in the “Age of Distraction”

June 28, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

We live in the “Information Age;” yet, despite the incredible number of communication platforms available to us, including worldwide interaction on the internet, email, texting, private messaging, social media, and (heaven forbid) using our smartphones to speak to each other, we are as isolated and stressed as ever. If you research how to improve communication, whether for personal or business reasons, you will learn that listening is the most important tool for effective communication. “The ability to truly pay attention to what someone else is saying improves not only the quality of what we hear and understand, but also the enthusiasm and engagement of the other person involved in the communication.” (LaunchBox365.com) Even as we incorporate more technology for sharing […]

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How to Successfully Navigate a Transition

May 24, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

Your life is one continuous series of transitions. Some of the transitions are more obvious than others: getting married, becoming a parent, changing employers, changing careers, selling a business, loss of a loved one, becoming an empty-nester, entering retirement from your career, just to name a few. How you have, and how you will, handle these transitions, and whether you merely cope or embrace them, will determine your level of happiness during the transition and afterward. Expecting, welcoming, and engaging with change is empowering. Successfully riding the waves of change goes best if you start with a vision. What do you want the transition and the subsequent period to look, sound, and feel like? No doubt reality will be a […]

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How Much is Enough?

May 10, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

In the face of a rude person or a loud kid or a disruptive employee, have you ever turned with intensity and said, “Enough!” When you have become excessively clingy, competitive, busy or accumulating, have you ever barked that word to yourself? What will it take for you to tell yourself, “Enough, already”? How much is enough: of success, money, excitement, stuff? What drives your work and consumption goals? Do you know? What’s really important? What’s the cost of your pursuit of more? These are important questions. Asking the questions help you determine your values and help you course-correct on the path to getting what really matters to you. Setting aside limiting beliefs to find balance The answers to these […]

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The Four Ingredients of Personal Fulfillment

April 19, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

Having achieved a certain level of success, however you may define it, the path to real fulfillment can be a challenge – a sometimes frightening challenge. You may fear that there’s a risk that if you pursue fulfillment, you will have to give up success. At some level, you may be wondering if the move toward your true, authentic, heart-centered self will make you vulnerable or exposed. In my free eBook, The Business of Wanting More: The Secret to Fulfillment, I explore what it means to be fulfilled and how fulfillment can actually lead to success, but how focusing on success often leads us away from what is most important to us. You can download the book here: Get Your […]

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The Benefits of Conflict

April 5, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

The word “conflict” often carries negative overtones in our culture, with implications of hostility between parties, and even a military feel. A list of synonyms for this simple word only amplifies this feeling: clash, fight, dispute, strife, struggle, combat. With such a negative value placed on such a simple word, is it any wonder that an entire industry has grown around coping with conflict; an industry which literally created the problem and now offers the solution, known as “conflict resolution”? And yet, healthy conflict is always a step on the path to intimacy and real connection. Consider a more neutral definition of the word “conflict”, which is merely, “A state of opposition between persons, ideas or interests.” When conflict is […]

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Why You Don’t Want to be Fulfilled

March 29, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

Feeling fulfilled, achieving peace of mind and satisfaction with life, stems from the achievement of four universal needs that are at the core of what it means to be human: acceptance, connection, purpose, and service. Behind everything you think, every emotion you feel, and every action you take is your desire to meet one or more of these deep-seated needs. For example, the drive to succeed in your career may be fueled by the need to be accepted, or to have value. When this need is driving you, you unconsciously pursue career success at the expense of your health, your marriage, or even your moral convictions, because your latent belief system is at work; trying in vain to meet a […]

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