Category: Personal Growth

The Most Important Thing to Know about Yourself

February 18, 2023 | By | Add a Comment

There is the mud, and there is the lotus that grows out of the mud. We need the mud in order to make the lotus. —Thich Nhat Hanh One of my favorite communication starters I use on YPO and corporate team retreats takes the form of a fill-in-the-blank statement: Sometimes I pretend _____ when the truth about me is ______. It is an invitation to get real and to out yourself and the way you jockey for acceptance and approval when the truth about you is you are feeling insecure and unworthy. The best part of the exercise is when everyone realizes that we are all playing this game. When the person you thought had it all together reveals that […]

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The Paradox of Goal Setting in a Predetermined Universe

January 3, 2023 | By | Add a Comment

Say not, “I have found the path of the soul”. Say rather, “I have met the soul walking upon my path”. For the soul walks upon all paths. –Kahil Gilbran I am increasingly aware that we have very limited control of the future and yet I see a lot of value in setting goals in order to better align ourselves with reality and experience greater flow, presence and aliveness. In this 5+ minute clip I talk about shifting perspective as a way to prepare for 2023 and include a simple 4 step process for goal setting. I am also including a link to a 10 minute video in which I teach a visioning process that you can use to prepare […]

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How to Access More Wisdom and Happiness

September 5, 2022 | By | Add a Comment

This is the third in three part series of video blogs focused on understanding the nature of your mind in order to increase self-mastery. In this 6 minute video I talk about how to access and cultivate wisdom and tune out overused parts of your mind. I also touch on the idea that awareness is something we receive versus create and it’s what we do with that awareness that makes the difference between suffering or happiness.

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Do You Want More Peace and Performance? Stop Playing the Comparison Game

August 9, 2022 | By | Add a Comment

This is the 2nd in a 3 part series on how to have greater self-mastery by deepening your understanding of your mind. One of your mind’s favorite games to play is the comparison game. In this 6.5 minute video I explain why the mind does this and how to break this habit and replace it with a perspective that is more satisfying and grounding.

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The Truth Will Set You Free: Understanding the Relationship Between History and Well-Being

February 23, 2022 | By | Add a Comment

If you know your history Then you would know where you coming from Then you wouldn’t have to ask me Who the heck do I think I am. –  From Buffalo Soldier by Bob Marley   Your Family Story Ripples Through Time Knowing the dynamics of your unique family history can explain patterns of behaviors, relationships within the family and ways members compensate for their pain. Our families are as dysfunctional as their secrets. Surfacing the shadowy behavior and history we’d rather avoid or deny reduces the risk that these old patterns will be repeated. Therefore, it’s important to understand your complete family history as objectively as you can and as far back as you can. You want to know […]

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Stop Projecting And Start Connecting

September 21, 2021 | By | Add a Comment

Looks like an earlier video did not contain audio – please try this one. Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In the space is the power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. –Victor Frankl, Neurologist, psychologist, and Holocaust survivor When we project onto others we make up stories about them. As a result, we miss seeing the whole person. Projecting creates disappointment, resentment, and disconnection. In this 6 minute video, I describe a 3 step process I call “The Flip” that you can use to interrupt your patterns of projecting and experience greater equanimity and peace. Don’t miss my inside look at a new technology I am calling the “Equanimity Generator” […]

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Choosing Positivity

August 17, 2021 | By | Add a Comment

In this 5 minute video, I talk about the power of choice on multiple levels so that life isn’t something that happens to you but rather by you. The next time you find your mind and emotions getting hijacked by your negative thinking or controlled by alarmist, negative “news”, take a microsecond and choose to think positively. In the video, I demonstrate a quick mindfulness practice you can do morning and/or evening that will help you make more conscious choices.

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Managing In Times Of Abundance

July 20, 2021 | By | Add a Comment

What could go wrong amid a growing economy, rising asset prices, and increasing incomes and net worths? I’m not sure humans know how to say “enough”. We are prone to excess, we get addicted, we overextend, use too much of our natural resources, and forget about the needs of people who are not benefiting from the abundance. In this 8 minute video, I identify two reasons we struggle with abundance and two strategies that we can use to feel more fulfilled.

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Thriving in the Midst of Crisis

December 21, 2020 | By | Add a Comment

The 75 years leading up to 2020 were some of the calmest in human history. What if the craziness of 2020 reflects a return to the average level of chaos on the planet? What if a new administration, or retiring, or moving to Canada isn’t going to be the answer? No doubt we want to prevent crisis when we can, but this year is showing us the limits of our control. What could be possible if you started expecting crisis and viewing it as an opportunity to step into your genius? In this 7-minute video I talk about how to do your pre-crisis leadership work in order to keep learning and growing, and how to use crisis to not just […]

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What’s Getting in the Way of Your Unlived LIfe?

December 8, 2020 | By | Add a Comment

Take about 7+ minutes to watch this video on one of my favorite topics: resistance. Is it my imagination or does anything we do that’s meaningful and worth doing come with resistance? Thoughts, feelings, systems, friends, family, beliefs—all these forms of resistance come from either inside or outside and have to do us or with others. What is your favorite form of resistance these days? I offer 3 things to do that just may get you to the next level.

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