Tag: relationships

Do You Have a Magnetic Personality?

January 7, 2019 | By | Add a Comment

…love thy neighbor as thyself. – Matthew 22, verse 39 Imagine you’re making a routine visit to your doctor. She tells you that she’s discovered a mass lodged near your heart. A biopsy determines that the mass is totally benign yet strangely magnetic. Further research determines this is no ordinary magnet: this magnet attracts people. And not just any type of person. In its default mode, it attracts people who are very different from you. People who know how to push your buttons and get you to react. You don’t have to believe this story—instead validate it with your own experience. Whether it’s family members, your spouse, or your business partners, you may notice that you’re often surrounded by a […]

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Three Key Ingredients of a Successful Relationship

October 18, 2016 | By | Add a Comment

By Tricia and Brian Gast ‘T is a fearful thing To Love What death can touch. To love, to hope, to dream And oh, to lose. – Judah Halevi or Emmanuel of Rome We celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary last month in Southern Spain. Specifically, we celebrated the friendship, support, depth and intimacy of our relationship. We celebrated the feeling that in some ways our relationship is just getting going and we wonder about its potential. Relationships are often challenging. The first five years of our marriage were not as good as the last five. Yet we are not the same people now that we were in our thirties. We’ve each grown and we relate differently. Our relationship has worked […]

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The Paradox of Success: How to Build a Life You Won’t Regret

March 17, 2015 | By | Add a Comment

Many wealthy people are little more than the janitors of their possessions. ̴ Frank Lloyd Wright For as long as I can remember my goal was to be successful. As a teenager, I was dead-set on being financially independent as soon as possible so I would be free to live as I chose. Be careful what you ask for… How’s This Working? After giving a talk to a group of young professionals, a determined woman in her late thirties cornered me. “I’ve been married for six years. We met in college. I loved his competiveness and how he dreamed of creating a big life.” Her jaw tightened. “His business is booming. He works in it and on it all the […]

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Shame: The Gift that Keeps on Giving

December 16, 2014 | By | Add a Comment

I always saw myself as confident. Yet my confidence was hiding a deeper truth about me. The real truth was buried under titles, roles, wealth, trappings of success, and my Impression Management competency. I could instantly create any number of highly-sophisticated ways to perpetually jockey for position in the minds of those I most wanted to impress. The way I dressed, the selective information I revealed to others, and the people I affiliated with were among the many strategies I used to try to meet some deeper need. Imagine you’re at a cocktail party in a large, elegant home. You meet someone whose reputation for success and influence precedes him. He’s enveloped in an aura of success as he introduces […]

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